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Dhu mcpl lv cnJ箳 i J{l Dnl l cnCp `YJvk iuLvhC`, `Givl` J `yHkj`. YJv Dnj pTv cCm DM k Jill Gj MOC n kU ijp Pu Dn. `YJvk Dmbluv` JJ=# mcpl J{l uu Dn. l箳 cUhl pTv l GK[v kC lv mJ& mcpv kjC JU Du Dn.
DhC mc pJvl lv hlUbJj k& kjl Dml. Mjjk, YJvk J yk... bhk Mjjk J yk Jkmm DhC Dhu JLaoMhmv yj Mkl Dml, hjbl Dhu pJv箳 Sk cnJhC& Ik cnCp YJvk hlUǮ k...? YJvk mcpv kMu mbhoCm `mn mkbo` (Six Seconds) n Dcjklu k@uH|v Lu mbmL iu h J<x k&jl Dn.
mbmkj#c yuJl DhC Dhu cu-cuRv biu YJvk mJ uJu, YJvk mcpv kMu lbv MkJu, lj lb YJ< vkwkǮ GpUv vIu.
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`Kl [@kwj kbyb mcnk Dlcnl!`
`SklHa ckjCJv mǮ nl!`
`DYvl ckjCJv i[Ǯ c[l[!`
`GhomL Yj GI[km!`
`lCu pJbl pUlv yIvn yIb nlyu DJmL!`
J DM kj ylc Jv J Skv DhC mV nTv pl. l #C DM k=l kjCN JRyu Dhuu D&, Ko, Ju#C mblh Jij Jv pll DC DhC l JRv SKo `uyu` uJl. lbv Dm k ku, kjC yNo D%l jnl. kU箳 DIl DhC l mJ& Jmv pl. vov l mbJov cbo nl pl DC lmb hnub lj DM mbibv vc&C nCN YJvbJ< yuJm JU Dn kCu?
Jj GuuK kuu Iv Yjll I[lnl, Dm vn. lj l mJ& pil mJ&$ I[l Dnl. SJ{ vn lj iu oMkl l J{l Dnl. YJvb Gk nC DC lJ YJvbv Mjj ly IC, n DM Ivb cU kjC Dn. u cvJ%vk Y<l `FcMvu np@Eki (Emotional Hijacking)' n mb% Jhjll. Jv Sk i u#l ICmjK Dn l DM k, Dhu mcpl lv cnJ箳 i J{l Dnl l cnCp `YJvk iuLvhC`, `Givl` J `yHkj`. YJv Dnj pTv cCm DM k Jill Gj MOC n kU ijp Pu Dn. `YJvk Dmbluv` JJ=# mcpl J{l uu Dn. l箳 cUhl pTv l GK[v kC lv mJ& mcpv kjC JU Du Dn. mboY&l `Djm@u` lJ%v mbiluu Jj cnJhC& Dn. l cnCp-
`ji kCun T Mkl. kjC l C mh Dn. hjbl i Jyu i cCl i JU J i kjCm ji C n Dlbl kC Dn.`
DhC pJvl lv hlUbJj k& kjl Dml. Mjjk, YJvk J yk. hk Mjjk J yk Jkmm DhC Dhu J|LoMhmv yj Mkl Dml. hjbl Dhu pJv箳 Sk cnJhC& Ik cnCp YJvk hlUǮ k? YJvk M#C (emotional training) i JUu J i jlv v IlucU Sk DL&v DhC yN cCl `YJvk vj#j` (emotional illiterate) Dml. p kn L[ Hj YJvk M#C nl l H Dhuu CN yN-JF& DvYJbJv nl. lcO ii Yi pml Dml. lcU l JǮ `pJv i[` UJv ImjC Mkwl pml Dml. DhC mJl: Dhu pJvlu `YJvk mckjC` m[J hnl. hjbl DM mckjC m[JC hl cnl vmucU Dm lv DmHu nll. yj JU l Jojk hjCc omv T uill.
cnCp Sk cnJ Mv GhmLl nl. l n k, pJvl vc&C nCj YJvk iblibl m[JCm kn lk&mmbil vc Dnl k? lvbv i oM C kn hl Dn k? -n vkwkǮ!! iu oMkl J<yyl Dbljj^dz mljJj yj mbMOv Pu Dn. ll Dm D{Uv Du Dn k, Dhu `YJvk mJRv` (emotional habits) yuJl i JUC oC Mkw Dml. l mboY&l Sk cnJ i cnCp Yjldz lJ%vl Dhu mc pJv j hlUbJj ul, Dm cvu pl. Fb, cv, y J mJ&huk[ Dlc.
[@. mv@Jn Dcjkv cvJ%vkv `YJvk % EkJ `YJvk yc` (emotional intelligence) n mbkuhv cb[u Dn. mO ul Dmuu ybk CcO Hj c&ol Jhju pl Dn. lcO cKl: M#Ck J<b Dkuv kjC yǮ #cl Dml. l C nl. pj cvJ ybk n Ghpl J v youl nCj Dmu lj Dhuu Dvk Mv h[ Mkll. GonjCL& DhC Dhu cubcO kn i you Mkl k? pj l Mkw Dmu lj cubv lb h{ D<l biu kj M cUC Mkw nF&u k? DJJu op& M#Ck M cUJuu Dlbl nMj cuin kO kO pJvl DMmJ nl lj kO kO mOjC yc Dmuu cui D&kjk M mbhov kjl, n Dm k JnJ? cvJ%vkb Dm cl Dn k, u kjC Dn lb ycOu cnJ Dbi, l `YJvk yc (emotional intelligence).
SK JcO YJvk yc kl Dn, n l JǮ `YJvk kMuJv` omv l. lcO JJO i DblY&l kuu Dnl. l cnCp mJlJ Yv (self-awareness), YJvb mcpv (managing emotions), mJbjC pi=l kjC (motivating onself), omN箳 YJv DUKl C (recognising emotions in others), YJvk mcbpmhC C (emotinal understanding) hjmhjblu JmbybO i jlv nlUl C (handling relationships).
mJ& YJvk mcpv kMu DhC Dhu cubv Dio yuJhmv MkJ Mkl. YJvk mcpv kMu mbhoCm `mn mkbo` (Six Seconds) n Dcjklu `k@uH|v` Lu mbmL iu h J<x k&jl Dn. l mbmL yOJkw Dn- It takes Six Seconds to manage anger! DJI mn mkbobl ji mcpv kjl l! It takes Six Seconds to create compassion!! DJI mn mkbobl Dvkbh pi=l kjl l!! It takes Six Seconds to make difference!!! DJI mn mkbobl you I[Jv DCl l!!!
omNbM J mJlJM Dmuu Dbljk mbybOblv pJvl Dvbo, DMJo J M mbhov kjC p Dhu #cl Dn lu `FcMvu Fbupvm` cnCl F&u!
i oMv J mllv lv kum Dhu cub `YJvk ybk` J{Jl F&u. lm l hjCc cub M#Ck Jul, c$cO, DjimbhV nCcO om uiu. h&v D<箳 mJ& Jul kbyk pJv mK J MmJ nCm col nF&u n v|JJo Dn.
Dhu JJO YJvb Gic cWocOu `vjyu@pku m|kmd`cOv km nl, n Dl hC&hC %l Puu Dn. uK J<祮 Glblvblj cvJ箳 cWocO `Euyk mmc` vJ vJv Yi Jkml Pu. lyjyj DJkml cWoӮ YiJj vJv Lj yml iu DC llv vc&C Pu l `vD k@xkwm`. `Euyk mmc` Yiu `YJvk cWo` (emotional brain) cnu pl. `vD k@xkwm` Yiu `J̮jk cWo` (thinking brain) cnu pl. cWoӮ ov Yibv p[Cj DiCl Jl hL Dnl. lcU `YJv`, `Jj` J `k=l` cO mcvJ mOu pl. `Dci[u` (amygdela) vJ cWocOu Yi n YJvk iǮ Kml Dmuu Yi mcpu pl. YJvk IvbM vi[l mc=l L mJu pll. o:K Pu k, D C n Ƭ Dci[ucOv J|ll ku pl.
c YJvn JJO s Dnl. p s Dnl l YJvk J J̮jk cWocOu mcvJcU Dnl. lm ji, Yl, I=C, Dvbo, kUp p JJO YJv Dnl lbv vpl kjC kc prefrontal lobe (bu uy) n cWoӮ Yi kjl Dml. Hbu uy cnCp J̮jk J YJvk cWo b vb$k! cvJ%vk v<k<&Jv cWoӮ JJO Yibv J lbv p[CN oJbv pi=l kjC J l J{ nCm DhC col kjC kc DhC k Mkl. l km? lj JiJiU GonjCbv, iǪhbv, cnh<b DvYJkLbv. DM kj i mjJ J M#C ou lj DhC Dhu `YJvk ybk` J{J Mkl.
pJvl Dhuu JiJiU kj YJvbv mcj pJ uil. DM YJv pi=l PuJj km Ji, cnCp l mcpv km kj, n DhC yuJl cubv JJO GonjCbJv MkJ Mkl. Dhu v mbmk=l, Flnm J J*ddc n DM kj DvYJkLbv Dlbl mc= Dn. l DhC i kj Jhj k Mkl. i YJ h{Ǯ `YJvk %` J{ Mku.
`YJvk yc` Oi hk[v pj mbmkj#c yuJl Jju mbilucC biu mJ uJu, lj l YJ< vkwkǮ GpUv vIu. m Sk vJ M#Ck ouv GI[l F&u. l cnCp `YJvk M#C`. cub mbihv kjlv Mjjk J yk M#Cyjyj `YJvk M#C` n Dl kU ijp Dn.
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